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Let’s start out with
a
Philmont update…
There are new requirements for trek crews both in Wilderness First Aid and in
CPR training. Philmont is now requiring that at least one person in each
crew (preferably two people—can be an advisor or a youth participant) have
current certification in ARC Wilderness First Aid basic or the equivalent, and
AHA or ARC CPR training, or the equivalent. This is for pure safety and
survival. Philmont confirms: Depending on where your crew is when an incident
occurs, it can take several hours for ranch staff to reach you, and that clock
starts ticking only after you’ve been able to get the message in to the
nearest staffed outpost camp! Thus, immediate availability of a trained crew
member on-site, to provide proper and prompt attention, will definitely benefit
the one who’s injured or ill. Beginning this summer, all crews will be asked to
show current certification cards upon check-in. Be Prepared!
Now, on to our
regular Q&As…
Dear Andy,
Our long-established troop has no reference material available in a library.
Other troops have extensive libraries (often better than the Scout shop). I’ve
checked my personal copy of the Troop Committee Guidebook but didn’t find the
answer to this question: If we were to try to establish a troop library, what
should be the core purchases to build a library and then move to the
nice-to-haves of a good library? My ideas include:
Necessary:
Guide to Safe Scouting, Scoutmaster Handbook, Troop Committee
Guidebook, Patrol Leader’s Handbook, Advancement Committee Policies and
Procedures, Troop Program Features.
Nice to have:
Merit badge pamphlets, other reference guides.
Another question: Do you consider the Fieldbook to be as critical as the
handbook? IMHO, the Fieldbook is more fun to read than the handbook, but we use
the handbook to record advancement.
Thanks in advance. (Donald Dillon, Central Florida Council)
I think your lists
are good ones! I'd be interested in having several copies of the Patrol
Leader Handbook available—at least one apiece for each current Patrol
Leader—and a Senior Patrol Leader Handbook, too!
Make sure the three
Troop Program Features books are readily available to the Patrol Leaders
Council, for program and event planning!
Yes, definitely add
a Fieldbook! And, if you can go shopping on eBay or other site, be sure
to pick up a copy or two of the 1959 Scout Fieldbook (the one with the
brown cover). You won't be sorry!
Merit badge
pamphlets are, I agree, in the "nice to have” category. Every Scout should
really have his own, if possible. But an alternate to this is to keep several
copies of the pamphlets for the 15 merit badges that are on the "required" list
for Eagle! At about $3 apiece, and two per merit badge, you're still under a
hundred bucks!
Now, how about doing
this buying and then developing a check-out/check-in system with a Scout
who's interested in maintaining and adding to the library? Voila! You've got
yourself a Librarian!
Dear Andy,
I have questions about Patrol Leaders, Senior Patrol Leaders and Assistant
Senior Patrol Leaders… Does the BSA have any written rules that state that
Patrol Leaders are elected by their patrol members? Does the BSA have any
written rule that the Senior Patrol Leader is elected by the troop at large?
Does the BSA have any written rule that Assistant Senior Patrol Leaders are
appointed by the Senior Patrol Leader?
I’m asking because, in our son’s troop, the Scoutmaster has just appointed every
one of these positions. (Name & Council Withheld)
ALL of this is
written, plain as day, in the Scoutmaster Handbook. These are not
written as "suggestions" or "guidelines" or even "recommendations;" they're
written as THIS IS THE WAY IT'S DONE. If it's not done this way, it's simply
NOT BOY SCOUTING. The "Scoutmaster" is the servant of, not the "master," of the
Scouts. This is also made plain and unequivocal.
You’ve brought tears to my eyes... Our son came home after his troop meeting so
upset last night. He felt badly that the Scouts who would make a good Senior
Patrol Leader didn’t have a chance; he also felt badly for himself, because he
wanted to run for Patrol Leader and this was taken away from him and others too,
of course, when the Scoutmaster just named names and that was that. He’s
devastated. He’s read about elections in his handbook. Now he just wants to
quit Scouting.
Tell your son that I
know exactly how he feels. I had a Scoutmaster just like that when I was
a brand-new Scout. It's really a bummer. But...and this is a very important
"but"...the problem isn't Scouting. It's this particular Scoutmaster,
who just doesn't "get it." He doesn’t understand that, when he signed on, it
was supposed to be for the purpose of delivering the Boy Scout program as
written; not as he decides to make it up!
Are there any other
troops nearby? Any you could visit, to see just what kind of Scouting's going
on there? When I was 11 years old, I actually transferred from on troop to
another, and then to another before I found a troop that really gave its Scouts
a Scouting good time! Yup, that's three troops before I found the right one!
But that's where I stayed! Had a blast, too! And, would you believe... more
than 50 years later, I'm still in touch with some of those guys! So, look
around. We don't "marry" troops, and we can change anytime we want! Got some
friends that you hate to leave behind? Well, after you find a good troop, tell
'em! Maybe they'll want to have a lot more fun, too!
Thank you so much! My husband and I have told our son that he can change, but
he feels he won't have any friends in a new troop.
I’m wondering, can the local council say or do anything about this Scoutmaster
and what he’s doing, or is this not in their hands?
This Scoutmaster instills fear in everyone, including parents. The other adult
leaders in the troop are like sheep; they just do what he says without
questioning. He doesn’t have any sons in the Troop—it’s said he’s “doing this
out of the goodness of his heart”—and while some may feel this to be true, my
husband and I see it differently. We see him as a man who has a need to be the
big boss and isn’t “the big boss” anywhere else in his life, so he uses the
Scouts and their parents as a way to feel like he’s “in charge” of something and
he can rule over it.
How about you or
your husband (I’d personally recommend your husband) visiting a new troop all by
yourself, quietly, and if it looks good, explain to the Scoutmaster there just
what your situation is, and your son's fear about not having friends there
(which really means, "I'm afraid that I won't be accepted," which is a very real
fear among boys your son's age). If the Scoutmaster's the right kind of guy,
he'll ask you to bring your son around (yes, he should go in uniform) so he can
meet your son and introduce him around. Worth a try?
You see, I agree
with you about your son's present Scoutmaster. He's acting more like a
dictator, operating from instilling fear, and that's exactly what you don't
want. We often call this kind of guy, "The World's Oldest Patrol Leader."
Except that Patrol Leaders aren't supposed to be dictators, either. When a man
with no boy in the troop (ever?) continues to hang around, this is because he
derives great satisfaction from the role. Some guys get it right: Their
satisfaction comes from growing boys into men and giving them the guided freedom
to learn from one another while he guides with a feather's touch. Others, well,
something else is operating that's not quite as savory.
Unfortunately,
neither the council nor district—volunteers nor professionals—can do much about
this, because the troop isn't owned by them. The troop is actually owned by the
sponsoring group (called (Chartered Organization," or "CO" for short). Now if
you happen to know the head of the CO well enough to have a private
conversation, maybe you can make some headway about replacing this guy. Or
maybe they're looking for a Committee Chair for the troop committee and one of
you is willing to step into this slot. If you do take the Chair position,
you're now in a wonderful position, because the Scoutmaster actually reports to
you! That's right: The Committee Chair has hire-fire authority and this can't
be overridden by anyone except the head of the CO! Is this an opportunity? I
don't know. Maybe.
Meanwhile, maybe
there are other unhappy boys, too, and maybe you know their parents well enough
to test the water and see if maybe they'd be interested in checking out another
troop, too. If so, then your son and his friends could all transfer at
the same time! I'd really think seriously about exploring this route! But
whatever you do, don’t let the grass grow under your feet—every meeting from no
on will be painful for your son and the other Scouts in the troop, and this guy
isn’t going to do an about-face anytime soon!
Dear Andy,
I’ve been told that, on the old uniforms, the “trained” patch is now supposed to
go above the position patch. I know that, on the new uniform, that patch goes
on the pocket flap above the position patch, but I thought that the old uniform
stayed the way it was. Please let me know. Thank you. (Julia Walker, Trapper
Trails Council, UT)
"Told" by whom? Was any written proof offered, or was this just
somebody flappin' their gums? I'm asking because the new adult leader
inspection guides (check out www.scouting.org) clearly show two positions: Above
and on the sleeve's pocket flap for the new uniform shirts, and below for the
"old" uniform shirts. When confronted by hearsay like this, be sure to ask,
"So, can you show me that in writing, please."
I was told by someone who flaps her gums a lot! She’s always trying to correct
people on things she knows nothing about. Thanks for the verification. I will
gladly pass it on to her! (Julia)
Knock yerself out!
J
Dear Andy,
We’re having a conflict in our pack. A couple of leaders recently went to
training, but at different places, with different trainers. Now they’ve come
back to pack with different viewpoints, and they’re all saying the same thing:
“Well, when I went to training they told us to do it like this!”
I’ve tried to explain to them that volunteer trainers give the courses, and
they can’t help but tell you how their own unit’s run, so things may not match
up exactly. I need some help in explaining how to bring the information back to
our unit without a “holier than thou” attitude. (Darlene Wiertzema, Orange
County Council, CA)
Everyone brings
their own set of experiences and insights to the anecdotal part of training—the
part where we’re not talking policy, procedure, or program, but more along the
lines of “Here’s how we got this to work…” However, there should be absolutely
no deviation when it comes to BSA policies, procedures, or program delivery.
Hopefully, the conflicting ideas your folks came back with are in the former
category and not the latter. If the latter, then use a resource like the Cub
Scout Leader Book to establish which point of view is the correct one. And,
when you do, accept no “Yeah, but…” responses!
Dear Andy,
I’ve heard that the BSA national office now allows each council to decide for
itself if a Scout must have his own leadership project to earn the ranks of Star
and Life, or not. Where is this in writing, and are there any parameters or
guidelines for this? (Lori Carson, CC, Tidewater Council, VA)
You're "heard"...
from whom? BSA national advancement requirements are inviolate.
Period. Anyone who persists in trying to convince you of anything otherwise
needs to be told: "Show me in writing; until then, no way, Jose."
Hi Andy,
I’m a new troop Committee Chair and we have a new Scoutmaster, too, and we’ve
been scouring your columns to find insights! Your information and responses are
invaluable. I just saw a question asked about Eagle Scout applicants being
required to ask for their own letters of recommendation. This has happened to
our troop’s last three Eagle rank applicants. I wasn't aware of this
discrepancy until recently, when my own son started to fill out his application.
That’s when he asked me why other Scouts had to ask for references when all the
application asks for are the names and information for people who would be
willing to be references. I said I didn't know, so he contacted the other Scouts
and they told him that that’s what the council told them to do. These Scouts
were getting close to their 18th birthdays, so they decided not to
take the chance of having their applications being turned down or delayed, so
they did as told. In our case, my son is 16 and will complete his project and
application in the next month or a little more. He wants to challenge what the
council’s making Eagle candidates do, and believes time is on his side to stand
on principle. My question: Where can we find the official policy on a BSA
website or in a handbook? The only place we’ve been able to find it is at
www.meritbadge.com, but that’s not an official source for BSA policy. (Shawn
Carlberg, Los Padres Council, CA)
Unfortunately, some
council advancement committees begin to believe, for some unknown reason, that
they can add stipulations to requirements and procedures when they actually
don't have the authority to do so. This frequently happens when it comes to
Eagle rank requirements and how they are to be fulfilled.
Regarding Eagle
Scout rank requirement 2, as your son correctly discerned, the Scout's only
responsibility is to provide, on the application, "...the names of individuals
who...would be willing to provide a recommendation on your behalf." That's it,
in total. This means that, after the Scout has inquired of, and received the
assurances of, up to six people that they would be willing to provide a
recommendation, all the Scout needs do is list their name, address, telephone
number, and email address (if any) on the form. Having done that, he has
completed requirement 2. From that point forward, the process described in
Advancement Committee Policies and Procedures (BSA No. 33088) takes over.
This BSA booklet explains clearly and without equivocation that the solicitation
of the actual recommendations is definitely not the responsibility of the Scout;
it is the responsibility of the council, or district, or troop adult volunteer
charged with doing this. It would therefore be considered an addition to
the requirement if the council, district, or troop required the Scout to do
this, and—as we are all supposed to know—additions to advancement requirements
are strictly forbidden by the BSA national council. Consequently, whoever or
whatever entity at the Los Padres Council has insinuated this additional burden
on Eagle candidates is one hundred percent inappropriate and incorrect.
Dear Andy,
Who, in a troop, can administer the Scoutmaster Conference? I am a brand-new
incoming Scoutmaster. We have a limited number of Assistant Scoutmasters. My
own son needs a conference for his First Class rank, and I’m trying to figure
out what to do. (Craig Brower, Denver Area Council, CO)
There is absolutely
no BSA policy that prohibits a Scoutmaster-Dad from conferencing with his
Scout-son! In fact, this is a bonding experience that the two of you will
remember for a good long while! If anybody criticizes or outright objects, tell
'em to go pound sand down a rat hole (or something gentler, if you're so
inclined).
Dear Andy,
Our troop is planning a whitewater rafting trip. Is the instruction that the
outfitter gives you at the river, prior to the trip, considered a “qualified
whitewater specialist” and is this considered “adequate” training? If not or if
you’re unsure, what would the special training by a BSA Aquatics Instructor be,
and how do I get in touch with one? The language I’m looking at is: “All
participants in activity afloat must be trained and experienced in watercraft
handling skills, safety, and emergency procedures…For unit activity on white
water, all participants must complete special training by a BSA Aquatics
Instructor or qualified whitewater specialist.” (John Dorgan, MC,
Northern New Jersey Council)
I'm assuming you're
not bringing your own rafts or canoes or kayaks, paddles, PFDs, etc. Instead,
I'm assuming that you've contracted with one of the many "Whitewater
Adventure"-type operations and outfitters that ply the Lehigh and Delaware
waters, offering group trips like the one you’re describing. They'll supply the
watercraft, PFDs, etc., along with instructors, instructions, and—in some
cases—guides who come along with you. If I've got that right, then the company
you've contracted with is responsible for everything that takes place on the
water, and this (including their liability insurance and/or accident wavier
forms) will supersede any BSA protocols. This is, in fact, a part of what you're
buying. That said, if you have folks who are SSD/SA trained, First Aid trained,
CPR trained, etc., it's certainly worthwhile to encourage them to come along!
It would also be prudent to make certain that all Scouts and adults who come on
this trip have met the swimming requirements for First Class rank (yes, this is
despite, not in lieu of, PFDs).
If you have
questions of a more specific nature, check with the person at your council
service center who approves tour permits, and/or check with your council's risk
management committee.
Hi Andy,
Can an Assistant
Scoutmaster sit in as a voting member of a troop committee? What about a
Scoutmaster? Thanks. (Debra Giles)
The registered
members of a unit's committee have two codes, and only two: CC (for "Committee
Chair") and MC (for "Member of the Committee"). Neither the Scoutmaster nor
assistants are or ever have been members of a unit committee. Moreover, any
unit "organization chart" clearly shows this.
That said, the other
point that needs to be emphasized is that there's virtually nothing that
a unit committee actually ever needs to vote on! Not adult volunteers, not troop
meeting program content, not troop outing or camping schedule or location, not
uniforming, not dues, not which youth will fill which positions, not which
summer camp to go to this year, not what sort of service project the troop will
do for its sponsor, not much of anything at all! Ever.
I'm curious…just
what does your erstwhile committee feel it needs to take votes on?
Amazingly enough,
some committee members feel the need to vote on whether or not only men can
serve on boards of review for First Class rank and above. I personally don’t
think this is right, but some are taking the whole "Scouting is a ministry" idea
to the extreme. Yes, I believe that men should lead, but I don’t feel that
extends to all aspects of life, including Scouting. I have plenty of women who
are available to serve on any board or review, and find it difficult sometimes
to get the men to serve. Of course, we decided to give this a try “their way”
for three months and—low and behold!—I’ve had men stepping up where they weren't
before! It's frustrating to me as the Advancement Chair not to be able to do my
job without others interfering. I’m praying that this works itself out, or I
may be finding a new troop to volunteer with. I don’t want to convey the wrong
message to the Scouts that women are in any way inferior to men. Thanks so much
for your input. I thought I knew the answer, but wanted confirmation of it.
(Deb)
Quietly "stack" the
committee with women, then out-vote the jerks! <wink>
BUT, do keep in mind
that it’s not just “any parent with a pulse” who can sit on a board of review…
Except for Eagle rank, all boards of review must be populated by registered
members of the troop committee.
Dear Andy,
I've just read your
comments about "active" and “Scout spirit” as they pertain to advancement. I
couldn't agree with you more about the “Do Your Best” part. But would you
consider a Life Scout who doesn’t attend an Eagle Scout Court of Honor and goes
to a high school party instead to be doing his best? Or what about a Scout who
has a part-time job, who could get off on troop meeting nights, but works
instead to be doing his best? Better yet, how about he works on troop meeting
nights to earn money to trick out his car with new tires and wheels… Is he doing
his best? Or what about the Scout who blows off a Klondike Derby to go
snowboarding with some friends?
I'm not certain that
there’s any situation that wouldn’t ultimately complete the "active" or
“Scout spirit” requirements. If that’s the case, why have those requirements at
all? I’d thought it’s supposed to be challenging and a little hard to become an
Eagle Scout? If a boy is taking the easy way (like that party, or going
snowboarding), is that an ethical choice?
I take some umbrage
on your equating lack of exciting program with a corresponding lack of
participation. In a boy-led troop, aren't the Scouts supposed to provide the
spark and enthusiasm—especially the older guys?
Our Troop camps
about ten months of the year and always attends a week-long resident camp,
traveling to Virginia, Canada, southern Ohio, Pennsylvania and beyond. Two
years ago we did a Philmont Trek. So, all in all, I don't think we aren't
delivering! (Chuck Ulle, SM, Great Western Reserve Council, OH)
"Do your best" and
"active" are linked, just as "do your best" is linked with every aspect of
Scouting in one way or another. So, believe it or not, I'd say “yes” to all
your situations. You see, Scouting is a volunteer organization, and the primary
volunteers ain't you n' me... They're the young men we're here to serve. If a
teen-aged boy decides to go to a birthday party, sports event, bar mitzvah,
school dance, Wii party, church group event, or whatever (the list goes on and
on...), so what. This means nothing more than he's involved in lots of stuff.
This is one of the things we strive for in Scouting—Creating an atmosphere of
broad interests and experimentation. We sure don’t want to be in the business of
“building Scout nerds," where Scouting is all they do!
Hey, try this fact:
Fifty percent of the purposes of the merit badge program is to expand a young
man’s horizons. So, how can we, on the one hand, say “Go out there and do lots
o’ stuff” and then turn around and ding the Scout for doing just that without
looking like our tongue’s hinged at both ends!
All teenagers are
motivated by self-interest (isn't it a lucky thing that we adults aren't!) and
so any boy with any brains and gumption at all will choose from among his
options and pick what appeals the most to him, at that moment in time.
Besides, once they
figure you all out, you’re dead in the water…
The really clever
snowboarder’s gonna come to you and say, “Gee, Mister Scoutmaster, I know
there’s a Klondike Derby this weekend, but I’m already scheduled to practice my
skills so I can complete Snow Sports merit badge.” Or how about the party-goer,
who tells you, “Hi, Mister Scoutmaster, guess what… I’m just about done with
Music merit badge, and I’m playing piano at a school event, to complete the
‘performance’ requirement!” Or the part-time money-earner, who says, “Mister
Scoutmaster, as you know, I bought a pretty used car, with my own money, and now
I have to replace the wheels and tires, so it’s safe to drive, so I’m gonna be
working some extra hours for a little bit.” What are you gonna say? Well, you
already know…
As for
Eagle-specific Courts of Honor, here’s a newsflash: These are just plain real
boring for everyone except the Eagle and his family, and Scouts blow ‘em off
all the time, and I have trouble blaming ‘em. Maybe you all need to consider
full Courts of Honor, the way they were originally crafted, so that as many
Scouts as possible make it to center stage instead of just the Eagle(s). If
that sounds like heresy, then take a look back in BSA history and you'll
discover that Eagle-specific Courts of Honor are a relatively new phenomenon,
and the more they tend to resemble coronations the less interest other Scouts
will have in them.
Rank advancement is
challenging... Each rank is an exponent of what came before; they’re not
linear. The requirements are set forth by the BSA and we’re obligated to not
deviate from them so much as an iota. It's not our "job" to make things "tough"
or any tougher than the requirements themselves.
"Active" (the BSA definition) means he's registered and dues-paid in the troop.
Period. You and I aren’t permitted to make "active" mean more than that. If we
did, then every troop in the country would have a different definition and
mayhem would result. So, let's not go there, shall we.
Boys and young men
don't join Scouting because they must, and we cannot legislate participation.
Our job is to bring out the best in every boy we encounter. Do that, and we're
doing our job. Start getting resentful and rigid when a Scout skips an event,
and you're feeding the wrong wolf. Scouting doesn't take hostages.
Thanks for bring
these points up. They're important.
Hi Andy,
Can you point out in any of the BSA literature where it specifically states that
"once earned, an award or advancement can never be rescinded"? (Rob Richmond)
Let's do the
opposite: Let's have the person(s) promoting this notion to show you, in
writing, where the BSA says it's OK to do this. Let's make them do the work,
shall we? Until they can, it's no go, Joe!
Hi Andy,
The Venturing Powder Horn device is supposed to be worn on the left pocket of
the uniform, suspended from the button. However, the Centennial uniform doesn’t
have a button on the left pocket, and the award can’t be suspended from
anything. So the question is: Where should the Powder Horn be placed? Thanks.
(Greg Franck, Northwest Suburban Council, IL)
The Venturing
uniform shirt is forest green and has buttons on both of its pockets. This
Venturing training recognition will fit fine on the left pocket button. If
you’re going to wear it on the tan Centennial shirt, start by peeking under the
right pocket flap… see that button there? Well, sew one, the same size,
under the left pocket flap and you’re all set!
Hi Andy,
About the District Award of Merit, the Insignia Guide says
that if you received it once, that’s it. I’ve actually received this three
times—each with a different district in three different councils. But now the
nomination form states, “It is not appropriate to nominate a Scouter who has
already received this award.” To my way of thinking, it would be better to say,
“It is not appropriate to nominate a Scouter who has already received this award
in the same district.” Your thoughts? (Bob Monto, Minsi Trails Council,
PA)
I'd absolutely agree
that a district should always be on the lookout for "new" recipients and eschew
awarding a D-A-M to someone who's already been recognized by their district in
this manner. However, IMHO there's not a bloody thing wrong with a district
recognizing one of their own whether or not he or she has ever been
recognized for exemplary services by another district, whether or not in the
same council!
We're in the
business of continuously (some say relentlessly) recruiting, training,
supporting, and encouraging our volunteers. Without these people there would be
no Scouting program, period. So, if someone can tell me the harm done by a
small piece of cloth, some thread, a sheet of paper, and a wood-and-metal
plaque, I'm all ears! We are, after all, talking about a BSA volunteer
recognition; not the Medal of Honor! But if somebody really wants to go to the
mat over this, be sure to slug 'em twice, so you can give 'em two Purple Hearts
instead of just one! <wink>
Dear Andy,
Is an Eagle Court of Honor required for the Scout to receive his Eagle Scout
rank? (Greg Settle)
Short answer:
ABSOLUTELY NOT!
The Scout is an
Eagle Scout on the date of his successful board of review, just like every other
rank from Tenderfoot through Life. The Court of Honor following this, like all
Courts of Honor, is merely the public recognition of advancement; it is not a
step in the process itself. The original "recognition" (the fourth step in the
Boy Scout advancement process) occurred when it was announced at the very
soonest troop meeting following the board of review that the troop has a new
Eagle Scout, and his name is... (followed by a hearty round of applause). Then,
as soon as word comes back from the Irving, Texas office that the application is
in proper order and this Scout is recognized by the national council as an Eagle
Scout, he can begin wearing the oval Eagle Scout rank badge on his uniform—no
court of honor necessary for this, either!
Dear Andy,
I first have to tell
you how much I love your column! I read it all the time. My question is one I
haven't seen and it’s really concerning me. My youngest son is a Bear and I am
his Den Leader. I’ll likely be the Den Leader when he moves up to Webelos he end
of this school year, when he’ll be just turning ten years old. He’s “off” by a
year in school—a decision his father and I made several years ago, correctly—so
technically he should be in 4th grade and already a Webelos. My
husband is the local Scoutmaster and wants our son to push through the Webelos
program in one year and move up to Boy Scouts to join his older brother. I’m not
in favor of this approach, because he’s a little on the small side for his age,
but my husband says I'm babying him because he’s our youngest, and that he’ll be
12 if I let him go through the full two years. I thought I was just doing the
right thing, because he would just be going into 5th grade when he
would cross over. Am I being over motherly by keeping him in Webelos for the 18
months, or should I let him join the troop after one year? Your thoughts would
be appreciated. We’re just to close to the subject. (Name & Council Withheld)
One of the very
biggest and most important aspects of Scouting is the sense of belonging a boy
and young man gets from being a part of a den, a pack, a patrol, a troop. This
sense of belonging not only feeds his need for acceptance but also provides a
"place of safety," if you will, among his peers. It's quite literally the same
set of dynamics that bring teen-aged boys into street gangs—the difference being
that Scouting's "gangs" are for the good! But, emotionally, they're very close
to identical. And they're also extremely necessary in the growth and emotional
development of our young people, both boys and girls! The "gangs" of Scouting,
moreover, aren't invested in "being" good—they're motivated to DO GOOD
(that's straight from Baden-Powell, by the way)!
So, your younger son
is in with a den of Cubs that he's been with for a couple of years already,
and—if all goes as planned—not too long from now they'll all together, as a den,
graduate from their pack and, intact, become a Boy Scout patrol. They
stay together, work together, camp together, learn new skills together, elect
their own Patrol Leader from among themselves, and then another on in six
months' time, and so on... They may, in fact, stay together as a patrol of
friends for the next seven years! This is what your younger son has to look
forward to! (And, remember, also, that these are the same boys who will be his
classmates for the next seven years, too!)
If your alternate plan is put in place, all of this will be taken away from him.
He'll be neither fish nor fowl—He'll join the troop, but solo; he'll be salted
into an existing patrol of boys he doesn't know nearly as well as he does his
own present den; then when his den comes into the troop later on, he won't
really be a part of them any more, so they'll go on without him. He'll be, in
effect, a salted-in "outsider" for the next seven years.
It doesn't take a
rocket scientist to see which plan I'm encouraging here, and you'd be right if
you chose Plan A. Personally, I think the value of belonging far, far outweighs
any slight leg up on "advancing" or any of the other things that Boy Scouting
offers might have.
Happy Scouting!
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